DAY FIFTEEN: Remember Those Who Have Left
I really don’t want this to be a sad post..
But let’s be honest, losing loved ones is sad.
It’s probably the first thing that comes to our mind when we try to define ‘grief’
I don’t wanna open old wounds or trigger the pain of loss again. But I don’t see a way around it, especially since today’s act of kindness is directed towards the ones who couldn’t be here with us this Ramadan.
The ones who have passed away, leaving so many memories behind that are still very much alive.
In my mind, death is like this dark ghost lurking the hallways, looking for lives to steal.
And even though we know it’s inevitable
We KNOW our time on this Earth is limited
And that sooner and later we’re all gonna die
It STILL feels farfetched and probably improbable (were you able to pronounce that without involuntary ‘eye-crossing’ loool?)
It still comes as a surprise when one of us goes
It still feels so ‘unexpected’
Confession: I consistently ask Allah to take me first before all my loved ones. My mom thinks I’m selfish, but maybe some people are okay with being selfish in this specific scenario!
Allah knows some of us can’t even discuss the concept of losing a loved one forever..
And it’s not because our faith isn’t strong..
It’s because are hearts are so weak..
And no, it’s not the loss that tears us apart the most..
It’s the love for that person…
The love that stays ‘unfinished’, with so many things left unsaid.
It’s not them passing away, but us letting all this time pass by without weaving the best memories out of it.
Without telling them how much they’re needed, loved and missed..
Maybe grief is a different form of love..
Maybe this intense, hollow sadness is actually the love you wish to give to someone who has ceased to exist in this world..
And today, there’s a way to give it. I promise…
Make heartfelt du’aa for your deceased loved ones, because you know what happens next?
Your prayers will be wrapped up like special gifts (with a big bow and a little card and everything) then delivered to those who have passed. Allah is Kind and Merciful enough to make our sincere du’aa bring joy to our departed loved ones, raise them in status or ease their pain.
Prophet Muhammad (may peace and blessings be upon him) cried when he visited his mom’s grave. He wept so much till everyone else around him wept too..
Go visit your loved ones’ graves, for it’s the best reminder of the reality of this temporary world.. and make du’aa for them. I’m sure they’ll be surprised with your beautiful gifts.
May Allah bless the souls of our loved ones who passed away..
And help us love, embrace and appreciate the ones who are alive
While we still can…
If you guys have a minute, please allow me to whisper a special prayer….
Oh my Dear Allah, only You know what’s in our hearts…
Only You understand the pain of separation from those who took a part of us with them and left..
Our loved ones are under Your care and protection so protect them please..
Forgive and have mercy upon them, for You are the the Most Forgiving and the Most Merciful
Oh Allah, please forgive them….
Excuse them and pardon them and make honorable their reception
Expand their entry and cleanse them with water, snow and ice
And purify them of sins, the way a white robe is washed and purified from filth and dirt
Exchange their homes here in this life for better homes close to You
Protect them from the punishment of the grave and the torment of the Hellfire
And admit them with Your mercy into the Gardens of Paradise
My dear, Most Merciful Allah..
We beg You before we go to soothe this pain in our hearts
To send them our duaa in beautifully wrapped presents, and let them know they’ll always be in our hearts till we meet them again.
My Lord, You are the Most Loving, and the Most Compassionate
Do not leave us to ourselves not even for a split second…
Take care of our broken hearts…
Lilly S. Mohsen